When we build our self trust, we also build our self worth. 

Sometimes when we don’t trust ourselves, we continuously try to control the situation and burn ourselves out from investing endless effort and energy into something or someone. Individuals with self trust have confidence in the decisions they’ve made, in the work they’ve put in and in the relationships they’ve built. Those of us without a truly grounded self-trust are constantly doubting whether the job is done, whether we should have done or said something else, or if we’re doing the right thing in a given situation. And many of us who are learning to deal with our perfectionism, know exactly what it feels like to doubt, if not in yourself, then in many areas in your life. If you’re feeling like you can trust yourself a little more, here's what we find to be the most practical and essential tips for living a life with a little more self trust and a little more self worth. 

Don’t be Afraid of Making Mistakes

Oh, we bet you knew this one was coming. Yes, failing can feel terrifying and humiliating. We know it. How? Because we’ve all been there. We’ve all made mistakes. We’ve all made shameful mistakes - because we are all human. This you already know. 

What we want to encourage is for you to imagine that you take a risk, you submit a finalized project, you approach a friend or family member about something uncomfortable - now imagine that when the deed is done, you stay grounded in your decision or behavior. Imagine that you made a mistake and you handled it with grace, humility and confidence. 

Sometimes it’s not always about the outcome, but about how we handled the entire situation from start to finish. 

When You Make a Decision, Stick to It

When you make a decision, whether it’s pizza or sushi for dinner, or something bigger like declining a job, or turning down a date - trust yourself that you’ve made the best decision for yourself. Trust your instinct. Trust your intuition. And follow through with your decisions. 

One of the worst parts of indecision is all the time wasted while struggling to make a decision. Save yourself the stress and struggle, and just take a decision and stick to it. Stick to it because you trust in yourself, and if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be. 

And if it’s a small decision, like what to buy in the supermarket or shop, then just go with the decision and move on from it. Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed and lost in the decision making process. Just allow yourself to be assertive and trust in your opinion and decision making skills. 

Try to Avoid the Regret Game 

Just like we’re all going to make mistakes, we’re all going to have regrets in our lives. However, wallowing in regret and debilitating ourselves with our regret is a whole other scenario. 

We need to learn to forgive ourselves and learn from our mistakes. Our mistakes have incredibly powerful and meaningful lessons on the other side. This is a part of why we shouldn’t be afraid of our mistakes. Because we will learn and we will grow. 

We don’t need to purposely set ourselves up for making mistakes, but we can forgive ourselves and move on, the same way we would forgive others and move on - when we value the relationship with that person. We should equally value our relationship with ourselves. 

A Dialogue with our Inner Self Critic

If you consider yourself someone who is dealing with perfectionism, then we know you’ve heard that critical voice crying out one too many times. Instead of letting our inner self critic undermine our decision and make us feel bad, why not confront the self critic, understand where that attitude and criticism comes from and learn how to soothe it and reassure it. 

How we stand up to our inner critic is directly related to our own self respect and self worth. When we hear that inner self critic going, ‘I can not believe you just did that!’ Why not answer with something like, ‘this is how I’m feeling right now and this is the best that I am capable of, in this very moment, and that’s okay. I respect my boundaries and my limitations because I am human and I don’t need to be superhuman.’ 

Our inner critic is there for a reason, but we should also prepare ourselves for its feedback and let the inner critic know that we do in fact know what's best for us. 

Final Thoughts 

We are forever evolving and growing individuals. This is one of the most beautiful aspects about us and about life. That there is always room for growth and change. We all have the tools that it takes to feel confident, intelligent and loved. Through these small steps towards respecting our decisions, opinions and actions, we learn to trust ourselves a little more each day. And who knows? Maybe we even learn to value ourselves and our relationships with others on the way! 

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